So, have you all heard the news?! Looks like Facebook is getting a "Dislike" button. Read about the news here. Stay with me on the soapbox while I tell you why I think the dislike button is a BAD idea.
Facebook is Like High School
If you knew that your kids went to high school and got tagged by a like or dislike button everyday, wouldn't you want it to stop? Isn't the whole point of Facebook to try and feel good about ourselves without someone tagging us with a "dislike?" Do we want to go back to days of high school when we had to worry what people would think of us?
I don't think even us grown ups can handle the insecurity of waiting to see if the pictures of our kids, race, pets etc. will get a Like or a Dislike!
Liking is Acknowledging
So what is disliking? Here’s what psychologist Dr. Larry Rosen wrote for Psychology Today:
“Like” is an example of what I would call, “virtual empathy.” We are all well aware of what it means to be empathetic toward someone: having the ability to understand and share in another’s emotional state or context.So what then does a dislike mean? Does it say your feelings are not worthy? Or your opinion doesn't matter to me? I get it. There are some posts where the author posts a horrible event in their life and you want to "dislike" it. But what if the author posts something that means the world to them and they get a dislike? Then what?!
According to Facebook’s Help Center:
So flip it. Then "Dislike" would be a way to show what you DON'T care about? Ugh! I am not sure we are psychologically prepared to handle the "Dislike" button."Like" is a way to give positive feedback or to connect with things you care about on Facebook. You can like content that your friends post to give them feedback or like a Page that you want to connect with on Facebook.
Like = Self Worth
"Like" it or not (see what I did there?), we all look at the number of likes we get on Facebook as a measure of worth. Believe it or not, people go on to Facebook to look for kindness and empathy. They are not looking for ways to further bring themselves down.
But Facebook already does that. There are articles everywhere about the effects of Facebook on your self esteem. The University of Salford in the UK did a study last year on social media’s effects on self-esteem and anxiety and this study concluded that social media causes low self-esteem and anxiety. So why on God's green earth would you add yet another weapon in that arsenal? Won't the dislike button make it worse?
Those who anxiously turn on their computers / iPhones and other devices looking to see how many likes their pictures received? Think they will feel good about themselves by seeing that their dislikes outweighed the likes?
Sorry for the rant! I am a fairly self-confident person but even I know if I post a picture of my kids or my dog or my husband or my latest Spandits outfit and I get 345 dislikes and 12 likes, I will be crushed. So please Facebook, I urge you to reconsider introducing the Dislike button into our already fragile ego'd lives. I am not sure
I we could take it!
As always, I wish you Happy Feet,